Productive Things To Do When The Weather Is Crap

It's January, it's cold, the weather is crap and it's the time of year where the weather is cold and miserable and people would rather stay inside and hide under their duvet than venture out into the wet and cold.

It's tempting to be unproductive and sluggish when you know you should be being productive, but how do you ask? Well..

Read a book
You may think this isn't really productive, but it can be! It exercises your mind as well as being an enjoyable activity.

Have a bath
Use that left over bath bomb or fill your bath with half a thing of bubble bath. Self care is important, take the day to pamper yourself and relax.

Try a new recipe
Rainy days can be perfect for trying new things. Head to the kitchen and find some ingredients and get cooking! Don't worry if what you make isn't good, practice makes perfect, and if all turns out good, well that's a plus really isn't it?

Play video games
Going back to keeping the mind active, video games can be a perfect way to escape from the doom and gloom of the rainy weather. Escape into fantasy worlds and fight your way through a zombie apocalypse!

Socialize
But how? We can't go outside in this! Well, the internet is a magical place. Text someone, Slide into someones DM's, give your mum a call, just let someone know you care about them. 




Isolated

You can't pour from an empty cup. Self care is important.
I guess you could say this blog post is a bit out of the norm from me. 
Lately I've been feeling really isolated, in what I do, what I create, where I stand. A bunch of things really, and I'm not sure why. Sure it's easy to say "Oh hey, I'm really not feeling good today" but rather than me do that, I've just been pushing people away, to me, this doesn't hurt as much. I'd rather push people away than tell them how I feel. Why? Because talking about how you feel to anyone is terrifying. You're putting your emotions and feelings and everything else out on the table to whoever you're talking to, therapist, mum, dad, boyfriend, girlfriend, even your cat, I won't judge (I totally talk to my cat all the time) but the thought of being in that vulnerable situation just scares me to the point I find it easier to push people away than just talk. 



I don't know why I do this and I'm sure I'm not the only one who does this but lately my minds just been all over the place, one day I'm on top of the world and the next I can barely get out of bed. And that's okay, taking a mental health day for yourself every once in a while is good for you, and sometimes you need to for the sake of your own sanity - Stay in bed until noon, binge watch whatever is on Netflix, eat whatever you want and not feel bad about it - Tomorrow is a new day, a new you, a fresh start to do something else. 

Looking back, I would force long term goals on myself and would feel awful if I didn't achieve them throughout the year, so this time round I'm setting myself a bunch of mini goals, that I can complete daily or weekly, rather than monthly or yearly and I've found this has done wonders on how I feel about myself in general. I no longer feel as much as a failure as I did, I'm eating better, trying to open up to people more, trying to sleep better, but one step at a time, right? 

What do you guys to in terms of self care? I'd love to know!

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Useful Links:


  • Samaritans
Telephone: 116 123  (Free to call, 24 hours a day)

Email: jo@samaritans.org
Website: www.samaritans.org

  • Mind
Telephone: 0300 123 3393 (9am - 6pm Monday - Friday)
Email: info@mind.org
Website: www.mind.org.uk

  • Rethink Mental Illness
Telephone: 0300 500 927 (9:30am - 4pm Monday - Friday)
Website: www.rethink.org

  • 7cups
Website: www.7cups.com




Small Victories

Happy Friday friends!  Just a reminder this morning to celebrate every tiny victory you had this past week! I think a lot of times we forget to celebrate the small victories. Those matter too because they all add up to a big victory!  What have you conquered this week?
It's funny how one thing can change your whole mood in the space of 2 minutes.
Just wanted to celebrate the fact that I (finally) passed my IT portion of my apprenticeship! After failing once I was miserable, I studied IT in college for four years why wouldn't I pass? But after finally buckling down and actually revising and reading the actual test questions
 I FINALLY PASSED YAY

It's good to celebrate small victories, even if it's a tiny one. 


Questions For Self-Discovery

I recently read a blog post by Thepatchworkfox who found a self-discovery list on Pinterest that was created by lavendaire.com and I decided I'm going to be that person who goes "Hey, y'know what, I wanna do that too!".

 If you're looking to learn a little bit more about yourself why not copy the questions and do them yourself!

How do you feel at the moment?
Tired and bored. 

What do you need more in my life?
Time and Money.

What would make you happy right now?
Having more time and money to do things, I miss my social life. 

What is going on in your life?
Currently focusing on completing my apprenticeship and finding a new job after I've completed it. Focusing on my mental and physical health. Trying to fix my sleeping pattern.

What are you grateful for? List at least 10 things.
My family, my computer, having a roof over my head, creativity, being semi healthy, being alive, fried chicken, my mum, new opportunities, colours. 

When did you experience joy this week?
I mean, it's only Tuesday, let's give it time?

List all your small victories and successes.
Going to therapy, walking more, being alive.

What is bothering you? Why?
Finding a new career, what do I do after my apprenticeship if I can't find a job? Would it have been a waste of time?

What are your priorities at the moment?
Being healthy, physically and mentally. 

What do you love about yourself?
The spouts of creativity I have.

Who means the world to you and why?
My Grandad, we don't speak much but I don't know what I'd do without him. He is the most amazing person I know. 

If you could share one message with the world, what would it be?
Be kind to one another. 

What advice would you give your younger self? (Do you follow this advice now?)
Don't care about what others think you of you, be yourself, it's their loss if they don't like you.. And maybe cut down on the amount of bread and pizza you eat.

What lesson did you learn this week?
I shouldn't take crap from someone because they make me feel bad about a situation. 

If you had all the time in the world, what would you want to do first?
Learn to drive. 

What's draining your energy? How can you reduce or cut it out?
Napping at stupid times. I need my normal sleeping pattern back.

What does your ideal morning look like?
Waking up naturally, raining outside, hot chocolate with cream and comfy pajamas. 

What does your ideal day look like?
A self care day to myself. Not having to worry about going out or being any where. Taking time to look after myself.

What makes you come alive? When was the last time you felt truly alive?
I feel alive when I'm with friends who love me for me, creating new things, being myself. 

What/Who inspires you the most? What are you drawn to about those inspirations?
Loey Lane, a plus size YouTuber inspired me to love myself. I love everything she does and stands for and I think she's an amazing person. 

Where does your pain originate? What would you need to happen for you to heal?
Mental pain from around my childhood, I blamed myself for my parents divorce for a long time and sometimes I still do. Physical pain, mainly my left leg from Cellulitis I had a few years ago which resulted in mild Lymphedema, my leg has never been the same since..

What are your strengths? What are you really good at?
I like to think I'm good at writing when I have ideas, doodling, cooking, being a caring person.

What is something you've always wanted to do but were too scared?
Sky dive. 

What is something you would love to learn?
British Sign Language. 

What hobbies would you like to try?
Photography, BSL, cooking more..

Where would you want to live in your ideal life?
I'd love to have my own place that looked a bit like Carrie Bradshaw's apartment in Sex & the City.

Where would you like to travel in the next five years?
Japan, Santorini, Amsterdam & the USA.

What can you do to take better care of yourself?
Eat more healthily, speak to someone when I'm feeling down instead of withdrawing myself. 

When have you done something that you thought you couldn't do?
The job I do now, even though it's only an apprenticeship, I was out of work for a year before I was offered this job and was so scared to start. Now I love it. 

At the end of your life, what do you want your legacy to be?
I just want to be remembered for being myself.